What worked well for me was this:
Your quickest response is a muscle memory response and quick and precise is definitely what we want in a hover!
What we are basically trying to do is build muscle memory based on visual input, so the technique is actually very simple.
I always focus on the nose of my plane as it gives you cues for both pitch and yaw.
First fly alot of high-alpha harriers in all aizmuths including straight at you. your rudder and elevator inputs will be exactly the same but a little quicker and sometimes deeper in a hover.
If you're comfortable hovering belly out, allow the torque to bring the plane around to 90 degrees (belly right), if it's nice and stable, wiggle the rudder or elevator back and forth a few times as you bring in throttle to punch out. As you get more and more comfortable, hold a little right aileron to stop it and hold a 90 degree hover. When it feels the least bit uncomfortable, hit the throttle and punch out.
When you're comfortable with 90 degrees right, let the torque bring it to belly in and do the same thing, wiggle the rudder or elevator as you punch out and gradually over time you'll be able to hold it longer and longer.
After that work the 270 degree point (belly left) the same way.
This same system works equally well for elevator control.
Very subtle and unknown to you, when you wiggle the rudder back and forth, you see the aircraft's response with your eyes and the brain begins building the muscle memory. All it takes is repetition.
My point is that I couldn't tell you what control inputs I put in and when, but I can hover in all 4 aizmuths and control a torque roll.
It's all about programming muscle memory based on visual cues and memorizing little sayings isn't necessary when you understand that!
I've taught several folks to hover using this technique and it works well.
My 2 cents
Fred