Hey Joe!
Just checking in with some feedback. I took a break from work for a few minutes and flew a foamie in the backyard and tried to think about what you said and it made a huge difference. Here's the thing: When the plane was about to, for example, fall backwards toward the canopy, as a non-3D flyer your instinct is to give down elevator. When that didn't work (due to lack of airflow), my instinct was to give even more elevator and, voila, I started overcompensating and messed up my hover.
Instead, as you said, I treat the throttle as a control surface, so when the plane is about to fall out, I just increase the throttle a tiny bit and give a tiny elevator (or rudder) input, and it straightens right away. The key for me was to understand that the plane is about to fall out due to lack of throttle, not lack of elevator input. Kind of a "duh", I know, but I needed to have it pointed out to me.
I love this forum! Things that are probably obvious to you end up being huge AHA-moments for us mortals. Thanks again, Joe!